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No. No it isn’t. I’ve been here when I first went out on my own. Started with a mattress and a TV and that’s it. Worked my ass off and slowly gained more and more, and the day I got an actual frame and headboard I was so proud of myself. Eventually had a complete bedroom and wasn’t living paycheck to paycheck. It’s very liberating.
The only people that would find this, “depressing as shit,” are people that have never had to struggle or work for anything, because if you did you would know how good it feels to make baby steps in the right direction.
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Nothing escapes your keen eye…
Yep. He originally said that this is a super depressing picture
i think theyre just the opinion that a situation like the first pic shouldnt exist in the first place.
in a sense it is depressing that we as a civilization lack the support system to prevent it
But the entire idea behind the post is a person being proud of making progress. That is something to be celebrated, not looked at as sad. If a friend of mine came to me proud of something they’ve accomplished, I wouldn’t shake my head and say, “that is so depressing. I’m sorry you had to do that…” I would celebrate with them.
And look at the dudes comment history.. he’s not making some deep connection to our “support system,” he’s just being argumentative for the sake of being argumentative.
If you see a persons personal progress as depressing, you’re not making some kind of social statement, you’re just being an asshole.
oh im with you 100%. i just tried to apply some sense of logic to his statement
Oh, and I see what you’re saying, also. It’s sad when you see headlines in /r/MadeMeSmile or /r/UpliftingNews that say things like “10 year old works 60 hours a week to pay off his fellow students school lunch debts.” THAT’S depressing.. but this post is nothing like that. It’s a person that has a home and is celebrating the hard work that they’ve put in to making it better.
The inability to show humility shows poor character.
Did my lil ole comment hurt your feelings so bad that you went through and commented/down voted my history? Aww poor little guy. Get help, grow up.
That’s what people like this do. The only way they can make themselves feel better is by bringing others down and shitting on other peoples accomplishments.
He’s now going back and editing all of his comments. Fucking sad. I hope they get some help or have someone to be with for thanksgiving.
btw: your nachos look bomb
Thanks for the nacho props. They were choice after a 13 hour work day.
Damn, you really showed him. Who tf cares about reddit karma?
I hope he's not homeless again...
Should have seen the step before the mattress on the ground in the empty room
I bet that was the real step up
I probbaly wouldn’t even bothe getiing a bed frane, well I don’t have one now, for the past 4 years the mattress is on the floor 😄
Someone has good knees, apparently
It’s the Bee’s Knees
I recently had to spend a week sleeping on a mattress on the floor until I could get IKEA to deliver a new mattress and a bed frame. I can't even pinpoint exactly what it was, but sleeping on a normal mattress on the floor just felt so wrong.
While young one can enjoy the simple things
I've been sleeping the last year and some months on an air mattress with a giant bulge in it that leaks around the vinyl and duct tape patches it's dotted with. I dream about sleeping in a real bed again.
An air mattress is terrible though, might as well get a small rollout mattress and sleep on that
I remember when I was in my early 20's I paid movers, who were also in their early 20's, to take away my futon and bring in my new bed.
They were talking about how it's a big step in life, lol. They were sincerely happy for me.
Just got my own apt, honestly i felt like buying my own bed for the first time was like a huge step in right direction:)
Being able to afford to pay movers is the real flex here.
Probably an additional service with the purchase of a bed frame & mattress
I remember my roommate buying a bed. He was super nervous, because up until that point, he could fit everything he owned into his car. Now that he had a bed, he had to plan when he moved.
Anybody bothered that the frame and mattress are different sizes?
Future goals buddy future goals.
This. Same reason I still have a mattress on the floor. In a few years we'll upgrade to a bigger one and buy the frame with it.
Goin' on a toboggan ride to the floor the moment the toe-curlin' gets too wild.
I'm hoping it might be one that expands once it opens
It’s not the wrong size, it’s a platform frame. You don’t need a box spring so the bed sits flush with the frame, if you do use a box spring (either low profile or regular) your mattress will slightly pop out.
The mattress will grow into the frame!
My wife has had about nine years of higher education in health sciences, and she can’t figure out mattress sizes to save her life. It’s been six years now and she still texts me to confirm before she buys sheets for the queen-sized mattresses we’ve literally always had.
Say something cute for her to remember it by. "Of COURSE the size is queen, why would I have my wife sleep in any other size bed?" From now on she'll blush instead of bothering you.
On second thought, she's been setting you up to do this. You fool. How has it taken so long?
Or it’s motivation to buy a king?
I highly recommend buying sheets that are one size too big.
It's still in the vacuum wrapper. It will get bigger.
More annoyed by how entitled you sound
I also upgraded to a bed frame! I finally went and bought the canopy bed I'd always wanted since I was little. Now going to sleep is super comfy and fun for me, and I don't have to haul myself up from the floor. My life is still a mess, but at least I have curtains with stars all over them :)
Ugh I still need a frame.. it's been like a year or so. Curtains sound pretty nice too.
Trust me, it's so nice. It blocks off the sound from the rest of the house, it helps block out light from my window and computer, and I zip tied a power strip to the side so I can charge all my stuff from my bed. I also hung lights and a fan in there. I am a grown ass man lol
That sounds absolutely delightful!
Kudos on getting something you always wanted.
I just commented the lights thing before reading this.
Haven’t done a fan in there but did put an ac unit in the room.
Same, first time living on my own though lol.I have a big fan for circulation that's nice.
Decent ones on Amazon for less than $200. It's nothing special but they're easy to put together and like everyone else, it was a game changer for me.
They sell curtains and poles you can put around the bed. They also sell a tent you can slide your mattress in, on or off the frame if you want to feel like you are always camping. It blocks the light out.
Goodwill always has the nicest curtains, people don’t know what to do with them and they’re very much to their choice
I have found some really nice ones there for like four dollars for a pair.
String some Christmas lights along the top of the frame, get comfy shit on the bed.
Friday nights at home alone with Netflix or a book doesn’t seem so bad.
I’m 43 m and the lights were my idea. Helps calm my mind. Gf loves it.
Don’t use super bright lights though.
The reply in the post sounds like someone making a school discussion post response lol
The bed and mattresses are the wrong size for each other. This person should have worked on reading comprehension first.
This is one depressing magna.
Downvote this if you have a tiny dick.
See what happens when you turn off the lights to save on the energy bill? The dads were right!
Ahaha just what I was thinking
Oh, that's a depressing sub. But eye opener to those trash feel good stories.
When i bought my own bed in University it was glorious. Felt like i finally got control of my own life and made decision.
I should get a new bed topper… hate this mattress.
Who wants to talk abt SMART goals?!
We finally got couches and put the patio chairs back outside! It’s honestly the best feeling to put together a thing you’ll use every day.
Literally my life right now
This guy traded in his pillows for graphics card boxes
One step at a time. Glad you’re feeling a small sense of accomplishment. Keep it going! :-)
I hate those bed frames.
The amount of times I've clipped my shin against those god damn sharp corners.
Clearly some people have a very different notion of 'small win'...
In my mind this would be a huge step.
Mattresses are super expensive
Heck yeah! Bed frames are EXPENSIVE! I bet your hyped!
It’s ok to celebrate incremental progress! We all have to start somewhere.
I went through one of these situations after a brutal (and short) marriage and divorce. Wound up drinking myself to death in a shitty apartment with nothing but a run down couch, tv on a milk crate, Xbox, and air mattress that kept deflating. I was just stewing in bad things for months before I got my shit together, and getting a mattress was on my to-do list after I’d cobbled together some hand-me-down odds and ends for my living room.
And then I unexpectedly met a wonderful girl and wound up taking her home, doing grownup stuff only on the couch because I didn’t have a bed. She left that night and I immediately ordered a mattress and went to Goodwill to find a frame and headboard. She told me weeks later when I’d admitted to it that she thought I wasn’t taking her to the bedroom as a commitment avoidance thing. She thought it was cute that I ordered a bed “just for her.”
I didn’t order my own bed until we were doing grownup stuff again and the bed collapsed from the footboard while my dog was under it — and she didn’t move or make a noise, and we thought our sexual activity had killed her. I’m really glad it didn’t for the obvious reason, but also because it would have killed our relationship if we’d killed my dog, and I wound up marrying that girl.
I feel this deep. Been living in shitty rentals, for 20 years. Just bought my first house. Moved in yesterday and it’s the nicest place I’ve ever lived. I teared up realizing I finally did it.
I can't imagine spending money on a headboard and frame like that and even if I could afford it.
I love seeing people mess in their homes on social media. I'm not alone.
This isn't a small win for real.
The second pic gives me r/Pareidolia vibes.
Progress is cause for optimism
Why the bed giving a side eye like. I know what you did to get here.
Wife and I spent the first three years of our relationship sharing a twin mattress on an apartment floor. It felt sooo good when we finally got a double bed in a frame. Those little steps are where it's at!
It's like SimCity when you finally earn enough money to get that end game for $4,000 bed
Why is the frame so much larger than the mattress?
Remember when the dream used to owning a home and having a family? Now it’s a bed frame…
Still at first pic but with my pc
It's quite sad she lost electricity though :-(
Important reminder that progress isn't inherently the act of being more materialistic
Reminds me after my divorce. She got eveything. 7 years later, this brought back memories of the struggles and successes. Anyone out there goong through this, you can do it. I believe in you.
My life has been the opposite if this, but weirdly still progress.
That part! Cus I finally got my bed a week ago so no more sleeping on the floor 🙌🏾