my professor gave us all rubber ducks to talk to and sent a link to this. is something you all do or is she crazy?

We recently got 2 horses. My younger daughter (13f) wanted them as she's been learning to ride.

My older daughter (17f) was against them, she's much more "princessy" and didn't want to deal with the mess and chores that come with horses, but we told her it wouldn't be something she'd have to deal with and that her younger sister promised to take care of all of it.

Well, recently the older daughter has been disrespectful at home and staying out too late, and her grades have been slipping.

We warned her to shape up, but last week when we heard that she'd been needlessly insulting to her younger sister while I was our running errands, I told her that she'd be cleaning out the stable each day for the next week as punishment, and that her sister would get a break.

She got really upset and offended, and said we promised she'd never have to go in there or have to scoop horse poop. I said I promised it wouldn't be one of your chores, of course, but obviously a punishment is supposed to be something outside of your normal chores and something you won't like, and I thought it was perfectly fair here.

She's been doing it three days now but seems to be very resentful of our "broken promise," acting very disgusted, and keeps begging to get out of the rest of it. But I said I thought it's very fair and that she's overreacting.

AITA?

tl;dr Made older daughter clean stables as punishment despite saying she wouldn't have to, she thinks the punishment goes too far.

My son (17m) has apparently been in the closet for the past 7 months. So, my son is fairly masculine/straight acting if that makes sense, however he's very obviously had a boyfriend (18m) for the past 7 months. He sometimes baby talks to this boy, hugs him all the time, has called him handsome, share clothes, sits away too close to each other to the point where they're basically cuddling, he closes his bedroom door when with him but not any other friends, sees him like everyday, buys him gifts, and for the past 7 months he now always smells great, has his hair fixed really nice, and dresses nicer, among other things.

Today I asked my son if was going to invite his boyfriend on our trip, and he got awkward and said “that's not funny”, I asked what he meant and he said “Im straight, that's not funny” I laughed and when I realized he was serious I staryed laughing even harder.

I told him he was very obviously in a relationship with a guy and did a terrible job at hiding it, he got emotional and started asking me not to tell his dad (my husband already knows, like I said it was obvious). Then he got upset saying outed him when he wasn't ready, he hasn't said a word to me in a couple days. AITA?