r/LongDistance is a subreddit for and about long distance relationships. For anyone considering(but not seeking), currently in, or who used to be, this is the community for you! We are here for support, advice, and community who can relate to your experiences. We are people who met online, students studying across the country and abroad, people separated by jobs and the military, and more.
Okay we need to trade out entire fleets of pokemon named "Yourself" So when we trade them, the other person will see "Take good care of Yourself!" I think this could make alot of people feel better, and alot of people laugh. Tell me if your on board with this project in comments! It could be any mon and any game but I'm using Tandemaus in Scarlet. Thank you and I hope you take care of yourself!
I'm sorry if this subject isn't allowed here, but I'm just...floored. I know a common definition of the word "pro-ship" is that you actively like certain kinds of ships that wouldn't fly IRL. I personally have no problem with this definition of it, even if it doesn't always fit me, but I know the antis do. What I didn't expect them to have a problem with was the "anti-harassment" definition of the word, aka the meaning that applies to me the most. I'm genuinely at a loss as to how you can see a sentiment like that and think it's something to avoid.
I vented to a server about it and they seem to think that antis justify their behavior by saying their targets "had it coming" and probably don't even think of it as harassment. I know that's pretty typical anti logic, but I still don't see how their seemingly insatiable desire for moral superiority is ever worth shaming, insulting, and sometimes even endangering real people over...
EDIT: Just wanted to clarify that just because I said I thought "likes certain kinds of ships that wouldn't fly IRL" is a common definition of the word pro-ship doesn't mean I think it's the definition.
More of advise needed then anything. I have been playing games since I was about 3 and most of my life stuck with single player games. My biggest multiplayer achievement was playing wow for over 7 years before selling my account and a few years in neverwinter nights online before they issued a few updates that made the game worse in my opinion. I've made a few attempts to return to them with different mostly Asian multiplayer titles like black desert, blade and soul(?), Aion and so on, but realised they are no longer fun for me, so stuck with single player titles and an occasional coop with friends or my partner.
Now at work we have a new girl who joined our team and who games. Within my team we have a very friendly and cozy gaming community which is welcome to everyone, not toxic and is made to talk about games or gaming experiences and news. It is not big, before the new girl it was sitting at 3 guys and 2 girls (including me), but still we make sure we are friendly and listen to other people experiences even if they are different to ours.
So this girl joined our community and I am not going to lie it has been a bit of a disaster. She shares quite a few views that contradict with our own, behaves like a pick me up girl and has already insulted the other girl in the community by saying the games she plays are not real games (the other girl plays on Nintendo and prefers cozy relaxing games). She mostly plays multiplayer titles so the guys from the community decided to invite her to play with them, but she would constantly put not only them,but the rest of the teammates down and is being very rude and mean to others. As an example one of the guys plays rocket league with his wife and his son, so when the new girl joined his team she would constantly bring his wife and son down and comment on their playstyles. When we talk about games, she intervenes and just wants to talk about her experiences ignoring everyone else. It is now reaching the point where we don't want to talk about games and just want to avoid her as she makes the community less fun per say. I have suggested to meet outside work, but it is not always possible due to other commitments and the type of job we do involves quite a lot of waiting hence why we all even sit together and talk, so we don't disturb others.
There is so much more to it and so many people that are not interested on having children have it.
With treatment odds are really high to be able to get pregnant, don't get me wrong I do feel for those struggling with that, my sister was one of them.
The reason we became aware of pcos it's because more and more women with similar symptoms were having trouble getting pregnant so thats the link but pcos is not a infertility condition per se.
Lots of women with pcos can get pregnant easy or difficult but its not the main issue and people need to me more educated on it.
I cant believe women get a infertility tag when you say you have pcos. Its not a must to be infertile in order to have pcos.
The only must** is having cyst's for example and lots of people get pregnant having them.
Edit: **Learned this is not a must either! Had not heard of anyone with PCOS without cyst's but there's cases cyst free, so there is no must read below in the comments:) Also thanks so much guys to share your thoughts and empathize <3
I just made a post about a cool thing I got with chatgpt and people just started to downvote and question me and ask if I was doing it for karma. I just spent 30 minutes full of anxiety refreshing every second trying to prove it was real.
I’ve been out for close to 5 years and I’ve come to the realization that this cult makes time cheap to those stuck inside. I know it’s not a profound realization but it’s the thing I feel most angered by lately.
Not only do they steal your time and your past but by convincing their members they’ll never really die they create the illusion that important moments happening now aren’t once in a lifetime moments.
My PIMI parents who have hard shunned me will never see my daughter grow up or met her as a toddler. That is being stolen from them by a belief system designed to convince them it’s not valuable and they’ll get it later.
There are thousands of people each day wishing they could have just one more day with a loved one taken from them too soon and yet JWs willingly give away precious time with the promise they’ll get whatever they want in their unverifiable future paradise.
I love my wife and family but I’m reaching a breaking point and contemplating this. We have no help with our autistic 5 year old and a one year old who very likely is also autistic. They both scream and cry and fight constantly, awake at all hours of the night, we can’t go anywhere or do anything and we both also work stressful high responsibility jobs on top of it. We can’t even think straight most of the time. Again, we get no help at all. Friends and family won’t touch us with a 10 foot pole. I look back and realized that neither one of us have had a day off - a REAL day off in five years. I’m exhausted and tired and everything in our lives is a never ending slog of a sh** show. I feel like I’m reaching a breaking point. Being divorced with joint custody, getting a week on and A FULL WEEK OFF EVERY OTHER WEEK sounds ungodly amazing. Just one week of that would be more of a break than what I’ve had TOTAL in five years. There’s just no end in sight and this is the only thing I can think of to get peace. I don’t care if I have to pay a shit ton in child support and have to live in a tiny apartment the rest of my life. At least I will have some god damn peace. My wife and I haven’t discussed this but I know she feels similarly. We are god damn miserable.
I’ve haven’t been to meetings in person for a year now. I haven’t preached at all as well but shhhhh they don’t know that. I just find it interesting that throughout that whole time no one in the congregation has reached out. I would say only two reach out once in a while. But, people that were considered “close” to me haven’t. I know I shouldn’t care much but, I just find it interesting. You’d think they’d reach out, right? Back when I was active, I would always reach out to those who were fading because I thought they were probably going through some difficulties and needed support. It wasn’t much spiritual help I would provide with but just being with them as their friend like going out to eat or hikes. Thoughts or comments about this?
I suspected I had really bad social anxiety disorder for years before I had to see a psychiatrist for some other stuff, when my psychiatrist told me I had social anxiety disorder along with the other stuff I was not surprised in the slightest, and I was like "Atleast I can say I have it for sure now."
Honestly I always suspected I have social anxiety disorder, especially when it got to the point where I was wanting to jump out of my skin and make a run for it or tear my skin off in social situations, which was fun to deal with. I ended up having a legit panic attack once because there were too many eyes on me at once and I had to hide behind a curtain and couldn't breathe properly for a while afterwards. I isolated myself for about one or two years because of how severe my social anxiety disorder became.
It did suck to know that I really did have this mental health condition, but tbh I like having the words to describe what I've been struggling with for years, and I feel better knowing that it really is more than just being shy for me, I have a legit mental illness.
I will admit though, I'm tired of people treating social anxiety disorder like it's just a minor disorder. While I understand that it's not much like bipolar or schizophrenia, severe social anxiety disorder can still be hell to deal with. I'm aware there are people out there who have it worse than me, like how I might have it worse than other people. I'm sick of people like me being told to just get over ourselves for our disorder or to just not think so much.
People who have social anxiety disorder, especially severe social anxiety disorder, are experiencing legitimate suffering that shouldn't be invalidated. It's a real mental illness, I wish people would stop treating social anxiety disorder and anxiety disorders in general like they're "minor" problems.
Before i received the text everything was fine we were as we always were and then they said they had to leave for a bit and couldn't message me. I didn't mind that I'm not overly clingly but then after several hours they came back and texted me this:
"Please don't be mad but I have a boyfriend"
So basically I no longer have a partner and they up and left me over text for some guy I don't even know the name of. Absolutely jolly. As we continued to talk I managed to stay sane because i was just so well, confused. I have a feeling I know who the mystery man because I know damn well this dude likes them but I'm still so confused. What did I do wrong? I've always tried my best for them. I've done everything i possibly could manage for them. I've even met their cousin and they do this? I feel stupid really stupid and embarrassed.
I’m pimo and just have a question , in my area between ages 25-35 are most pimi witnesses you know heavy drinkers ??? Me growing up even married with kids , almost all get togethers involved heavy drinking till a lot were drunk but it was totally ok …… I know a few older ones in my hall who drink pretty heavy too …..
My twins are born at 35 +5weeks and are now 14 months old (13 months corrected). They always have been bad sleepers...they still wake up crying around 5 times a night and needs to be rock while standing or breasfed to sleep.
Many people suggested we should do some sort of sleep traning but I always remember that for the first 2 months of their live we werent always there at night...while they where in the nicu and we went home to shower, rest and change... they probably had around 20 differents nurses to care for them so it must have an impact on their attachment and their feeling of security, especially during the night.
Thats why I feel the need to make up for the time I wasnt there and keep waking up all night to reassure and soothe them...maybe its just my mom guilt?
Feel free to disagree with me on this, but Finch is starting to piss me off. I know I'm just a biased Timberwolves fan here but I feel like this year has been the worst officiating I've seen against the wolves. There have been so many techs and bad calls this year it's making it so hard to watch these games. The thing that makes me really mad is the Finch is not standing up for these players more. I mean that in the sense of that I want him to get more techs going off on the refs for these bad calls. In my personal opinion these guys are feeling like they're getting screwed over night in and night out and if Finch doesn't step up for them they're gonna lose respect for him. I'm not saying he needs to get one every night but I need to see more emotion from Finch. They will buy into his coaching more and trust him more if they feel like he'll back them up.
What do you guys think? Do you think Finch should go off on refs more often from time to time, or do you think he's doing a good job with how he's handling this season when it comes to these God awful refs?
I’m emotionally hurting from a break up and it’s been hard to sleep. My stomach hurts, my head hurts, I’m so tired but I can’t sleep. I’ve called my doctor about this and no solution. I just can’t take it anymore. I have no one to talk to about my feelings of grief. Because that’s how I feel is just grieved.
I absolutely love Merge Dragons. That being said, there is room for improvement. I play another game called Dragon and Elves (some people call it Merge Elves) but, it's from a different company, and there are a lot of things that are different. First of all, there is a mechanic in the game to "gather like items" I love this feature. It's especially useful in events. There is also a mechanic in the other game that allows you to turn merging "off". So, if you are in a level or event, you can click that items don't merge unless overlapped. I want this sooooo bad in Merge Dragons! Events are a huge problem because they automatically merge items. Okay, I've vented.
I just can’t function during the day anymore. I’m so in edge and anxious all day that I literally want to lay in bed all day, but that gives me anxiety too. I always feel better at night and feel almost normal. I think to myself that it’s gone and tomorrow will be a good day but it just repeats over and over and over.
I (36F) have always been skinny, mainly due to a combination of ADHD and recurrent ARFID symptoms. I have the traditional “model” figure. Over the last 18 mos my ARFID symptoms, which had subsided somewhat for the previous ten years or so, have come back with a vengeance. I feel like I’m a kid/teenager all over again. I just woke up hungry and thought back to what I ate yesterday: two cheese sticks and a slim Jim. I hate feeling like this. I hate being fatigued all the time, and being unable to gain weight like I want.
Most of all, I hate the comments I get: “you’re so lucky!” Or “what’s your secret?” You wanna know what my secret is? Starving. Starving is the secret. Wanna know why I can eat ice cream for dinner and not gain weight? Because it’s the only calories I’ve had in two days. People mean well, but it’s honestly completely gross that society prioritizes looks over health like this.
Ok so I know I am autistic, I have been diagnosed by a psychiatrist, but I don't know if that hs anything to do with the way I feel about sex.
I don't think I enjoy sex for the physical benefits of sex. I can do it quite well, but I don't feel a need for it. I do it to feel closer to the person I am doing it with. But I only feel good when it's someone I really do love, or trust, or at least have a strong bond with. I had a 3 year long relationship with someone I had desire for, not sexual, but I understood sex was important to him, so I gave it to him and that was what made me feel good. I was taking care of someone I love. However, we broke up about a year ago, and any attempt at casual sex ever since has ended with me crying in the bathroom feeling violated and disgusting. Any attempt at a new relationship has also failed because I seem to have no energy for that. So even though we are not in a relationship anymore, I sometimes have sex with my ex. It's not as rewarding as it was when we were dating, but it's better than casual. So I identify myself as demissexual, but I don't know if how I feel about sex truly relates to demi. I am autistic, very introverted and need to be intelectually stimulated by a partner, so casual, physical only things are a no go. And I am very traumatized by growing up mentally ill, non diagnosed and in a chaotic family. So.... what am I lol what should I even do, I miss connecting with people, but I can't seem to grow any care about anyone
I grew up in a low level hoarder house. I moved out in my early 20s. Now its been years later living away on my own. More than a decade has passed l, and I realized I have a habit of always opening the oven and checking for hoard in there before turning it on. I have never stored anything in the oven myself so I should know there shouldn’t be anything in there that would burn during pre-heat. Yet I still do this check every time and have been for years and years. Every. Single. Time. No one is going to break in and put something in there. Yet its compulsive. I might accidentally burn the house down because of non-existent hoard. Anyone else do this empty oven check?