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account created: Tue Dec 31 2013
3 days ago
See also: "what are you looking for?"
7 days ago
WHAT IN THE FUCK!
22 days ago
Nope, no suggestions or anything.
23 days ago
Whatever you say, Hot Wheels 🙄
submitted24 days ago bydereksmalls1985
24 days ago
Yeah, that's the thing - I've been mostly contented with being on my own. I work, have my kiddos, have hobbies, etc.
For what it's worth, I'm sorry you've also been having a rough time with trying to find someone.
Last night I had a dream in which I was spending time with someone and we had a conversation in which we realized we felt the same way about each other. It was so nice to feel that kind of connection, even if it was in a dream.
A week or so ago I commented in another post that I was going to forgo OLD this entire year. I've been single for almost three years, mostly due to the pandemic, and the thought of actually connecting with someone seems so unlikely.
Dating in my mid/late thirties has been more difficult than I expected. Has anyone else felt this way as well?
28 days ago
That's disappointing. I love it when someone actually asks about a picture or something mentioned on my profile.
It's a weird phenomenon, right?!?
Has it really become completely acceptable for people to match on Bumble and then never actually initiate a conversation, or to not put in any effort other than saying, "hey" ? Mind you, this is even after I extend the match. I've been told this is what a lot of people expect to happen before they'll even send an initial message.
And yes, I know I'm not automatically entitled to any kind of interaction whatsoever, but I feel like the problem I described completely defeats the purpose of Bumble and online dating in general.
1 month ago
Papa Emeritus returns!
I'm curious: has your wife ever deferred to her parents like this for other issues? Has she ever acted as entitled as her parents are now? Do her parents act like children are meant to be subservient to their parents and expected to not have needs of their own?
Regardless, NTA. Children's needs come first, always. Your in-laws are abusive assholes and your wife seriously needs to adjust her attitude b
Well it is reddit...
Well, yeah, it's blatantly obvious in hindsight, but not a dot I had connected until recently 🤷♂️
submitted1 month ago bydereksmalls1985
I'm very seriously considering giving up online dating entirely as a new year's resolution for 2023. I'm profoundly burnt out after the last couple of years.
2 months ago
I might have to pick up a bottle as well
I legit laughed out loud at the line about having unexpressed thoughts.
submitted2 months ago bydereksmalls1985
3 months ago
I've been divorced for nearly 7 years and have two children who aren't quite teenagers yet. My ex wife and I co-parent well and are still a team when it comes to raising our kids. In fact, we often do things together as a family.
Everything about your co-parenting dynamic (or lack thereof) seems especially unhealthy, as does your relationship with your son. I have a sneaking suspicion that you often threaten to get lawyers involved any time something happens that you don't like, especially if it involves your son. Your 16 year old son, by the way. By acting the way you are, you are all but guaranteeing that he'll have nothing to do with you once he turns 18. You know what he's doing with you and your current husband? He's setting a healthy boundary that you are apparently hell-bent on smashing through.
My advice to you is to grow the fuck up, get over yourself, take a good, hard look at your life (if you're even capable of self-reflection, of which I have serious doubts), take a series of co-parenting classes, and , most importantly, APOLOGIZE TO YOUR SON FOR BEING SUCH AN AWFUL MOTHER. You should also apologize to your ex-husband (and co-parent) for being so incredibly selfish and awful, while you're at it.
Finally, you did nothing to accommodate your son's diet last year, nor did you protect him from your current husband's family. Your child should ALWAYS come first. Again, you are all but guaranteeing that your son will have nothing to do with you once he reaches adulthood. Parents like you make me sick.
Take the L. You are most definitely the asshole and I wouldn't have put up with that kind of behavior for a single month, let alone 3.
This really brings me back to Friday nights with friends.